As the arrival of summer vacation, summer vacation exercise, extracurricular coachs class, art grooms the class appeared to become this holiday again " advocate dozen " . But, how to let the child can grow quickly in the thought in this holiday, it is important to this is afraid even if leave a of the parent " summer vacation works " .
Not long ago, the proposal that Hubei omits a high school student of 15 years old to give out " borrow summer vacation and parents well confabulate " , push communication issue to billow needle again. As a result of ferial li of parent job is busy, student lesson burden is heavy, undertake communicating without time at all. So of summer vacation became first-rate undoubtedly on the weekend " communication day " .
"Need principle " make communication platform.
"Summer vacation communicates day on the weekend " since must come not easy, need the parent, student to prepare well one time more so. Communicate both sides to should ponder over the issue that wants communication seriously above all, record of land of drawing manage clarity comes down.
The first, the view of certain to the other side respect inside certain period of time. The parent is achievement, for instance human to the child's study since this one semester the certain view on relation and habits and customs; The child can consider parent of the closest period of time whether correct to oneself manner, whether to make oneself satisfactory, if have dissatisfaction, wanting to be clear about is thing of where, what.
The 2nd, oneself need each other the mood treats him with what kind of, at the same time oneself are in again now a kind of mood handles the other side with how. Of Ma Siluo " need principle " theory is communicated in the family on likewise applicable. "Need principle " basically be the person's need cent is 5 administrative levels, ordinal for: Physiology needs (basically be basic necessities of life) , safe need, attributive need (a when make oneself can become a family harmoniously) , proper pride need and self-fulfilment need, and the person often is become only low the consideration just can go when the need of one class gets satisfaction taller the need of one class, change character, if want to have incentive effect to the other side, the base that already got satisfaction in the other side only goes up contented the other side is higher the need of one class. Accordingly, the parent and child should consider what to he hope to get at present is in in the family is the need of which administrative levels, and the need that what oneself give opposite party is which administrative levels.
"Fair theory " examine problem provenance
A lot of parents express to be mixed every time of the child communicate just began to make a noise to rise, actually this meeting increases the difficulty of communication. After beginning to communicate truly, communication both sides should maintain rational attitude, no matter the parent or child answer,with a kind equal status handles the other side.
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