In the life, we often see such a few circumstances: The child goes to school, parent side carries satchel on the back; The child's bootlace loosened, parent side has been fastened... these practices, it is parents undoubtedly in imperceptible in stripped the opportunity that child independence grows, worse is, this kind " monopolize replace " the idea that makes child him generation likely still incompetent, foolish, bring about the child to be not worth from confidence, this is a kind of aeriform harm more to the child.
So, how does the parent develop the child's independent character? The province teachs division place proposal of Mr. Liu Fenghua, the parent develops the child's independent character, should do so -- ,
Divide protection nevertheless. Protect overly to the child, often can hamper the normal evolution of child body and mind, make they become cowardly, depend on a heart heavy, jumpy, dare not make any attempts, and be close to not easily with the person. So, always the thing of child in one's power, should let go let him himself do.
Let the child handle his issue. The table that the child had better let have his in the family, little cupboard, let them as a child the habit that him nurturance handles him things. Tell the child the study such as crayon, rule to things should be put in his drawer, the toy is put inside toy chest, books is put in small bookcase, littery oneself had been arranged. The individual character that when the child is handling these issues, becomes independent with respect to meeting nurturance insensibly.
The housework that lets the child become a few in one's power is vivid. Such, not only the independent character that can develop the child, also can make the child more responsible feeling. Can let the child help for instance brush a table, the chopsticks that wash a bowl. After the child finished the job that you give, should say voice with him " thank " , give timely encourage.
Have patience. Because the child's start is slow,have some of father and mother, do sth for sb simply, when the child wants to express his opinion, parents is being grabbed however say. This kind of result that does not listen attentively to patiently, meet those who disturb child creativity ponder over a process, make he becomes silent, depend on. Want to know, the child's independent character relies on the maturity that body and mind develops not only, also need to rely on acquired study. Because this parents is so certain that this parents have patience, never act too hastily, stripped the opportunity of child learning.
