When it comes to beating their children, many parents will say: "we were young often beaten, have not seen any problems. How today's kids do not play it?" This is because different times result in the industrial age , our concern is that material things, but in today's information age, everyone is more concerned about people's inner needs.
This refers to the use of playing violent means or indiscriminate use of force to the child's physical and mental suffering caused by punishment.
"We have a child who did not survive the strike? Time to play on the right, today is not playing right. Why?" Department of Peace Area research staff, youth mental education experts Zhou Mei said, "because the times in development." Now the child of autonomy and self-awareness are strong, independent personality and desire for respect by others.
"Do not fight shape up", "to learn physics and chemistry, all over the world are not afraid" is the idea of that era. What are the times of that era? Is the pre-industrial era. It was a lack of material time, had to buy things by the ticket. The social orientation is the time to create more consumer goods. Therefore, the logic of the industrial age can also be called the logic of the manufacturing sector. The material determines awareness, education and ideology of the things is, our education also showed traces of the manufacturing sector, it is like to treat others as objects, not pay attention to the human personality.
Civilization in today's information age, our education has changed dramatically in the concept, focusing on the enhancement of human potential and human needs fully met. Not have a saying, "how the heart is as big as the stage" it? Respect for human personality of this era, focusing on personal feelings. We can not deal with things like the previous deal with people like that out. It is to the employer's own rules and dealing with people. The laws of their own, that is, to develop his distinctive personality and talent. Importance of personal feelings, the needs of inner desire to be respected by others. Parents hit the child again this time, the children have been greatly hurt, it can not play.
Zhou Mei said: "I always say a word to parents, 'we use the concept of education yesterday, today, the cause of the children in the future, how could it?'"
Zhou Mei said: "The playing children reflects the emotional fury of parents and education ignorance. Wanted to educate their children, do not know that this educational method is a failure to achieve their educational results." This is because a Beating children is easy for the child to the phenomenon of psychological adjustment. If parents hit their children at every turn, the children will have a psychological adaptation phenomenon, that white is fighting skin. Second, easy for children of parents concerned about the rage mood, thus ignoring their own knowledge of wrongdoing. Few parents smacking their children would be careful about where the child was wrong, what the consequences. Third, playing kids are prone to bring harm to children, such as harm to the child's self-esteem, forcing the children to lie, cause the child emotional resistance and conflict, resulting in tension in parent-child relationship, make it easier for children to form hot-tempered character and so on.
