Fine fine this year 4 years old, it is the child of nursery school middle shift, lively and lovely, mind is particularly quick, grow very congenially also, kin friend saw can praise her a few.
But these days, mom feels to a few behavior of fine fine however indissoluble, the heart thinks: Fine fine after all how?
Camera lens one: Cold of before two days of mom fell ill, dan Jiajia still is pestering mom, must mom accompanies her to play. Mom is very tired, say to fine fine: "Mom fell ill, fine fine is obedient, a bit better, wait for mother fault became good accompany you to play again. " fine fine still nots comply not forgive: "Be no good, be no good, I should play together with you, I am grouchy. I am grouchy..
Camera lens 2: Fine of mom belt fine goes to Pudong century park fly a kite, the daughter that as it happens encountered the colleague in the company and him 2 years old also is playing, mom has bit of thing to want to say with the colleague, accompany little little sister to play together with respect to beautiful allowing fine, they play very happily, little later little sister does not take care, slip in wallow aloud cried, fine fine is however on the side the appearance of a pair of as if nothing happened. Mom is very angry, interrogatory beautiful: "How didn't you take care of little little sister good? See her trip also do not come to her uprear, help earth of her whisk whisk. " fine fine replies: "Not be my prostrate her, be herself trip, do so dirtily again, I ability no matter! I ability no matter!!
Fine fine after all where gives an issue? Psychological knowledge tells us, the problem of fine fine depends on lacking pair of other affective understanding and resonance, namely the shortage that psychological place says " move affection " ability.
What is to move affection? Move affection makes love again immigrant. At present people thinks generally, move affection is by the mood of other, affection condition is caused, the mood that agrees to it, affection experiences, it is the reaction of a kind of resonant affection between main body and object. Common ground is told, move affection is the condition that shows individual him imagination is in other, understand the ability of the affection of other, desire, thought and activity, namely the ability that be considerate is others consider. Social psychologist alls alone Lan De thinks, move because experience another to the person is experiencing or should make the emotionality of observer generation reacts,affection is. Move affection is widespread presence, although the child also has this kind of capacity. The assistant that alls alone orchid heart lets him is in hot recuperate implement below different heat, show " painful " , " neuter " and " happy " 3 kinds of moods. Watch in children " the person that accepts treatment " (the assistant that arranges namely) when, issue two kinds of statements to them in succession: (1) imagines how to when he is in his condition, be experienced; (2) imagines how he is experienced. Meanwhile, measure children the centre of the palm to perspire by the instrument, vasomotor wait for physiology change. The result makes clear, the physiology status of children appeared to change apparently. Solid test and verify of Suo Lande understands children to have move affection ability. If children shortage alters affection ability, so the mood feeling position that he identifies another person hard, obtain as approximate as other photograph affection to experience hard, also understand the affection reaction of other hard, of course he has very hard also sympathize with, help the person's action. The problem of fine fine goes here, she is lacked move affection ability, show dim reaction to the affection condition of other consequently.
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